Love Is?

Love is ?

That’s a great question what exactly is love ?

Mankind has pondered that question since they became self aware ( well at least I assume so as I was around at the time )

Love is ?

You can’t touch it

You can’t feel it

You can’t taste it

You can’t smell it

You can’t see it

It contains nothing tangible which makes it a complete non entity

Yet it exists without question

Or so some people believe

Love drives people to do so many things

Some positive some negative

How many times have we hear “ I did it in the name of love “

A famous quote

” Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” Martin Luther King Jnr

I’ve heard people say ” I love you ”

I love you as a friend

I love you like a brother

I love you like a sister

We have the love of animate and inanimate objects

It reminds me of lord of the rings

Instead of one ring to rule them all

We have one word to rule them all

When people are dating they use the term constantly

” I love you ” ” I love you more ” ” I love you more than life itself ”

Really if you have no life your dead , if your dead how can you love ??

Yet as soon as a relationship ends they say how much they hated the person or they behave in such a way that it contradicts the so called love they professed to have

This leads to the question was it truly love or was it just words that people love to say to make themselves believe it was something special

That’s the bit I can’t get my head around

The people who can turn love on and off like a switch, scare me because it shows a mercenary like tendency

I can understand someone who was in an abusive relationship. They loved the person when they first met but grew to hate them due to the abuse. That’s a no brainer

What I don’t understand is the person who loves you passionately then switches on a dime to the most venomous harpy you could ever meet once the relationship has ended

My impression is they never truly loved the person or even understand the concept of love

They repeat the word parrot fashion

” I love you ”

Alas they don’t really believe it , I think it’s a hope that if they say it enough it will be true

In this day and age there are words that we over use and actions we do but don’t mean sincerely

” l love you ” is one such statement

” lm sorry ” is another

The kiss on two cheeks when you meet someone ??

Get the **** off me I don’t know where your mouths been

Four words ” Homey don’t play that ”

In case you missed it that’s a pop culture reference. A classic quote from Homey D Clown ( google him )

I can only look at this from my point of view

I love and have loved but I can also be cold but it doesn’t mean that the love has gone

What happens in my case I become logical, which seems cold to someone watching from outside

For me it’s more a self defence mechanism

If I see the relationship becoming toxic or the person behaving in a way that I find extreme.

Then no matter how much I love them I will step away

There are too many times in life where people do things in the name of love

When they should be doing it more got the person they profess to love

Tying the whole thing together in summation

We as people need to stop portraying a fake exterior and think before we use words , gestures or behaviour that we either don’t understand, can’t comprehend or don’t mean

I’m old school the words I say I say with sincerity.

I know I’m an old school optimist and I know there are people in this world that are users

If a relationship doesn’t workout I don’t turn on the person wishing them ill.

The love will always be there but I’m good at burying the feelings inside myself ( that’s the Vulcan inside of me ) ( yeah sue me I’m a geek ) lol

Sincerity is the biggest form of flattery

Honesty is the only thing we have as people

So I always project that as my exterior

So someone always know where they stand with me

Honesty and sincerity together and you can’t go wrong

Above all else to thine own self email true

How can you go wrong

It’s the basic code of life sincere and honest

Final word

Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.
Washington Irving