Everyone has days when we don’t feel 100% I get tired, grumpy, or stupid people/things/circumstances just annoyed. And I’m getting impatient with the things that I really don’t want to change.
I wonder if I’ll ever get out of my work at the office… Which feels more like a prison every day. I don’t feel that young, or that unbeatable. Dear Reader, do you ever have days like this?
In those days, staying in bed and eating doughnuts Positive Affirmations would be easy…
But I’m not suggesting it. It just feels like giving up too much, and it goes against every fibre in my body. Instead, I have a sort of checklist, which I run through to guide me out of self-indulgent wallowing, and back to what I think of as “myself.”
Let me digress for a moment, and tell you what that means to me. I think the way we treat each other is such an essential part of how we communicate with each other.
I see myself as a buoyant person, in any given situation, someone who rises to the top. I’m happy, I’m fine… When I’m focused, I’m intense, determined and unstoppable. That’s how I see my “true” self.
But I’m not so sparkly on my grumpy, foggy days, and usually, I’m less centred. When I know why things are going on, I do well. So, my first off-day order is to find out the reason(s) I may feel this way.
Did I sleep enough?
Am I feeling hungry/thirsty?
Somebody is bothering me, and why?
Sometimes I’m upset by something someone said/did or something I said/did, and I’m not sure why. Occasionally, it’s because if I hurt someone, I’m not entirely sure.
Sometimes it’s because I’m scared that I might have made myself a fool. Sometimes, because I perceived some slight or insult, I’m irritated.
And usually, unless it’s pretty blatant, it’ll just sit like a little piece of sand in the back of my head that’s irritating without being really apparent. But if I think about it for a minute, and realise what’s bothering me, letting go of that embarrassment/irritation is much easier.
I don’t need to carry that weight around. I need to apologise if it’s something I know, then I do it.
Usually, it’s a matter of sending, or making a call, a quick text or email. It’s a long way to apologise. And if that’s not really necessary, if I just have to forgive myself or forgive someone else for being inconsiderate, or rude, or simply stupid, then I’m taking a deep breath and letting it go.
I can see a bird flying from the top of my head. Try it out, it’s liberating.
Most of the time, one or more of those questions can address the reason for the fog that I feel. Next, I get to work with my bootstraps pulling myself up.
And why would I want to waste less than an amazing time? I’m going through a series of statements. I love the statements. You’re the one with the constant communication, that’s a powerful tool!
The way you’re talking to yourself is a key part of your attitude, and ultimately your success. Now, if you have never deliberately spoken to yourself, at first it feels a bit funny. A small effort is going a long way!
Most of us don’t even know how we speak to each other.
Most of us don’t believe in ourself this is where we need Positive Affirmations
The things that we think about ourselves are the product of habit, and what we take from what others say about us. But the fact is that we each have tremendous power, and it begins with how we speak to each other. If what you say to yourself is not intentional, it’s time to take control. Here are a few of my picks.
I am a beautiful person. Think about it so many times we (especially women!) can think about it and include all but our physical bodies. I think everybody can be perfect, physically and spiritually, dear reader. It all starts with feeling / thinking about yourself.
Women are fighting a lot with this so. Ladies, you’re pretty… The people are in agreement with me! Be of good courage, little piglet… Go to the mirror, and see three beautiful things. I wake up every morning and I’m grateful for a big, beautiful body. I’m very grateful for the lovely hair and skin/teeth/nails. Always use Positive Affirmations and believe in your self
And all those things are beautiful, I tell myself. Do we all have to agree with me? Nope, that’s false. Here I’m talking to myself… And here’s the important part, I’m going to let myself believe it and know it’s real. This is where the magic starts to occur.
I actually deserve all I want in life: love, happiness, success. This one gets after my habit of shame and guilt, and I can tell you that it was a long way to believe that I deserve these things. But I’m capable of all these stuff (that’s such a charged word!) and so much more. Take a deep breath and say that one to yourself. Feel it in the heart, it feels incredible.
- The universe is full of infinite abundance, and opportunities. At the top, there is plenty of space. In particular, this one is targeted at my competitive side. Here’s the rivalry thing, it tells us that at the top there’s only space for one. This tells us that if one person succeeds, this means it is because nobody else has. Yet, dear reader, that’s a storey. It’s simply not true. That’s a small thought, and I have no time to restrict myself. There’s plenty of room at the top for my success, and that’s where I’m going.
- Every one of them is very unique. Your statements and your goals should be tailored to your weaknesses. It is a huge step in the right direction to take the first step of taking control of the messages you send to yourself. What are you doing that works to get you out of a funk?